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Lessons from the Story of Uwais al-Qarni: Being Grateful to Our Parents

Islamic Religious Council of Singapore

Friday Sermon

2 September 2022 / 5 Safar 1444H

  
 Lessons from the Story of Uwais al-Qarni: Being Grateful to Our Parents

Beloved Brothers and sisters,

Let us together increase our taqwa towards Allah (s.w.t.) by obeying His commands and avoiding His prohibitions. May our taqwa lead us to become children who are grateful for the sacrifices of our parents.

Brothers and sisters,

Allow me to share a story about a son who was dutiful towards his mother and was highly regarded by Allah (s.w.t.). He was a son who spent his time and energy to care for his frail mother, prioritising and showing his gratitude for his mother. He was Uwais bin ‘Aamir, also known as Uwais Al-Qarni (r.a.). It was narrated by Imam Muslim that our Prophet (s.a.w.) instructed his companions to seek the forgiveness of Allah through the supplications of Uwais al-Qarni when they meet him, as the supplications of a pious son will be answered by Allah (s.w.t.).

This shows how immense the reward from Allah to those who are dutiful towards their mother.

Brothers and sisters,

The love of parents for their children is incomparable. From the moment a child is born, thus begin the endless and countless sacrifices made by the parents in upbringing and educating their child. These are the sacrifices they make for the unconditional love they have for their children. The limitless care and devotion towards their children can never be repaid.

As children, our role is not to just receive their care and love without attempting to repay their kindness. Especially when our parents are getting older, it is our responsibility as adult children who are independent and may have our own families, to care and show gratitude for the sacrifices of our parents by loving them as how they have loved us.

Allah (s.w.t.) decreed in surah Al-Isra’, verse 23:

Which means: For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And honour your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them even ugh! nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully.

 

Brothers and sisters,

Let us reflect upon the verse and its meaning.

Allah (s.w.t.) enjoins us to be kind and gentle to our parents right after the command to worship Him.

In this verse, we are taught on how to treat our parents with kindness. Allah (s.w.t.) also reminds us that as children, we should never hurt our parents either with hurtful words or actions.

Instead, let us treat our elderly parents with gentleness and love. Let us strive to serve them to the best of our abilities.

Brothers and sisters,

Conflicts are inevitable part of life. Each one of us has different views and perspectives shaped by our life experiences.

Hence, it is certainly possible for a child to differ with his parents. Parents might feel that their children are unable to make the right decisions and think of the consequences of their actions due to their lack of experience. This is the reality of life.

Conflicts and discords that happen should not be the reason to cut family ties. Unfortunately, there are individuals that are quick to abandon their parents and refuse to take the responsibility to care for their aging parents. Have we forgotten how they raised and loved us since young till we reached adulthood?

Let us remember, brothers and sisters, caring for our parents especially when they are most in need is the key to entering paradise.

Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said: “Your parents are the best of the gates of Paradise (which means the best way to Paradise), so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it.” (Hadith narrated by Imam Ibn Majah)

Let us strive to be responsible children and treat our parents well. We hope that our actions and sacrifices that we do for them will grant us great reward in this world and the hereafter. Amin ya Rabbal ‘Alamin!

أَقُوْلُ قَوْلِي هَذَا وَ أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ العَظِيْمَ لِي وَ لَكُمْ، فَاسْتَغْفِرُوهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الغَفُوْرُ الرَّحِيْم

 

 

Second Khutbah

الحَمْدُ للهِ حَمْدًا كَثِيرًا كَمَا أَمَرَ، وَأَشْهَدُ أَن لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ سَيِّدَنَا مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ. اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ أَجْمَعِينَ. أَمَّا بَعْدُ، فَيَا عِبَادَ الله، اِتَّقُوا اللهَ تَعَالَى فِيمَا أَمَرَ، وَانتَهُوا عَمَّا نَهَاكُم عَنْهُ وَزَجَرَ.

أَلَا صَلُّوا وَسَلِّمُوا عَلَى النَّبِيِّ الْمُصْطَفَى، فَقَدْ أَمَرَنَا اللهُ بِذَلِكَ حَيْثُ قَال فِي كِتَابِهِ العَزِيزِ: إِنَّ اللهَ وَمَلَائِكَتَهُ يُصَلُّونَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ يَـا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا صَلُّوا عَلَيهِ وَسَلِّمُوا تَسلِيمًا. اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ وَ بَارِكْ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ.

وَارْضَ اللَّهُمَّ عَنِ الخُلَفَاءِ الرَّاشِدِينَ المَهْدِيِّينَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ وَعُثْمَانَ وَعَلِيِّ، وَعَن بَقِيَّةِ الصَّحَابَةِ وَالقَرَابَةِ وَالتَّابِعِينَ، وَتَابِعِي التَّابِعِينَ، وَعَنَّا مَعَهُم وَفِيهِم بِرَحْمَتِكَ يَا أَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِينَ.

اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالمُؤْمِنَاتِ، وَالمُسْلِمِينَ وَالمُسْلِمَاتِ، الأَحْيَاءِ مِنهُم وَالأَمْوَاتِ. اللَّهُمَّ ادْفَعْ عَنَّا البَلَاءَ وَالوَبَاءَ وَالزَّلَازِلَ وَالمِحَنَ، مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، عَن بَلَدِنَا خَاصَّةً، وَسَائِرِ البُلْدَانِ عَامَّةً، يَارَبَّ العَالَمِينَ. رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنيَا حَسَنَةً، وَفِي الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً، وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ.

عِبَادَ اللهِ، إِنَّ اللهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالعَدْلِ وَالإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي القُرْبَى، وَيَنْهَى عَنِ الفَحْشَاءِ وَالمُنكَرِ وَالبَغْيِ، يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ، فَاذكُرُوا اللهَ العَظِيمَ يَذْكُركُمْ، وَاشْكُرُوهُ عَلَى نِعَمِهِ يَزِدكُمْ، وَاسْأَلُوهُ مِن فَضلِهِ يُعطِكُم، وَلَذِكرُ اللهِ أَكبَرُ، وَاللهُ  يَعلَمُ مَا تَصنَعُونَ.