Islamic Religious Council of Singapore
10 June 2022 / 10 Zulkaedah 1443H
Sharing of Household Responsibilities
My beloved brothers and sisters in Islam,
Let us remember Allah (s.w.t.) by carrying out all His commands and avoiding all His prohibitions. May we be placed amongst the righteous in the Hereafter. Amin.
Brothers and sisters,
Allah (s.w.t.) has honored humans by creating them to be individuals who are required to fulfil various roles and responsibilities. Just like how wives have their own set of roles and responsibilities, husbands too have been given certain roles and responsibilities to fulfil.
Allah (s.w.t.) says in surah al-Talaq verse 7:
Which means: “Let he who can afford it provide maintenance within his means; and whomsoever finds himself in strained financial circumstances, let him spend of what Allah has given him; Allah does not burden a person beyond what has been given to him. Allah will grant ease after adversity.”
Based on the above, we understand that providing maintenance is considered one of the responsibilities required to be fulfilled. This includes providing for living expenses such as shelter, food, and clothing, among many others. Ensuring that children are provided with adequate education is also considered part of maintaining one’s family.
Brothers and sisters,
In our local Singaporean context, there is an increasing number in dual income families which means that earning a living is a joint effort between married couples, in order to fulfil the responsibility of providing for their families. As married couples, working together through times of ease and hardship is indeed important, as a trouble shared is a trouble halved.
Let us reflect on the story of a married couple who lived during the time of our Prophet (s.a.w.) – Zainab and Abdullah bin Mas’ud (r.a.). Abdullah bin Mas’ud (r.a.) was amongst those who were needy, while his wife was someone who was well-off. There were times when Zainab was the one who helped to provide for the needs of the family.
Despite the various forms of agreement that have been made between couples and families, it is important for us to understand that married couples should share the responsibilities of managing and maintaining one’s family.
Our Prophet (s.a.w.) said in a hadith, which means: “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for your flock.” [Hadith narrated by Imam al-Bukhari]
As such, a father needs to play an active role in his children’s lives. This includes spending quality time with them through various meaningful ways like communicating with them, keeping track of their daily activities, monitoring their physical and social developments, and ensuring that their educational and religious needs are met.
My Brothers and Sisters,
The burden of care and responsibility for one’s children should not lie on the mother’s shoulders alone. In fact, studies have proven that a father’s presence is crucial for the family unit to flourish. A father who plays an active role in fulfilling his responsibilities will bring about a positive impact in the lives of his children and family.
Let us reflect upon the lessons and advice brought by a Companion named Salman al-Farisi (r.a.) to his relative, Abu Darda’ (r.a.), who was well-known for his intense effort in performing acts of worship, to the point of neglecting his other responsibilities. Seeing the situation, Salman advised him and said: “Indeed your Lord has rights upon you, and you have rights upon yourself, and your family has rights upon you, and as such, give all who have rights their rights.” [Hadith narrated by Imam Al-Bukhari]
My Beloved Brothers,
Every one of us will surely be questioned about our responsibilities in the Hereafter. Have we done enough to fulfil every right that we are responsible for? Have we done enough in terms of carrying out our responsibilities as husbands and fathers? If yes, then let us ask Allah (s.w.t.) to keep us steadfast, and if not, it is not too late for us to improve and become better, by striving to fulfill all our responsibilities to the best of our abilities.
We pray that Allah (s.w.t.) grants us success and His divine guidance in carrying out our given roles and responsibilities in the best possible way, and for Him to forgive any negligence and shortcomings that may be found in our efforts. Amin Ya Rabbal ‘Alamin.
أَقُوْلُ قَوْلِي هَذَا وَأَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ العَظِيْمَ لِي وَ لَكُمْ، فَاسْتَغْفِرُوهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الغَفُوْرُ الرَّحِيْم
الحَمْدُ للهِ حَمْدًا كَثِيرًا كَمَا أَمَرَ، وَأَشْهَدُ أَن لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ سَيِّدَنَا مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ. اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ أَجْمَعِينَ. أَمَّا بَعْدُ، فَيَا عِبَادَ الله، اِتَّقُوا اللهَ تَعَالَى فِيمَا أَمَرَ، وَانتَهُوا عَمَّا نَهَاكُم عَنْهُ وَزَجَرَ.
Brothers and sisters,
The act of korban, or ritual sacrifice, is a Sunnah Kifayah that is highly encouraged for every family with the means to do it. It forms one of the most encouraged acts of worship during the month of Zulhijjah. Let us seize this opportunity to perform the korban by working together with our local mosques. Reservations can be made through our portal www.ourmasjid.sg/korban
Amin Ya Rabbal ‘Alamin.
أَلَا صَلُّوا وَسَلِّمُوا عَلَى النَّبِيِّ الْمُصْطَفَى، فَقَدْ أَمَرَنَا اللهُ بِذَلِكَ حَيْثُ قَال فِي كِتَابِهِ العَزِيزِ: إِنَّ اللهَ وَمَلَائِكَتَهُ يُصَلُّونَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ يَـا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا صَلُّوا عَلَيهِ وَسَلِّمُوا تَسلِيمًا. اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ وَ بَارِكْ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ.
وَارْضَ اللَّهُمَّ عَنِ الخُلَفَاءِ الرَّاشِدِينَ المَهْدِيِّينَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ وَعُثْمَانَ وَعَلِيِّ، وَعَن بَقِيَّةِ الصَّحَابَةِ وَالقَرَابَةِ وَالتَّابِعِينَ، وَتَابِعِي التَّابِعِينَ، وَعَنَّا مَعَهُم وَفِيهِم بِرَحْمَتِكَ يَا أَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِينَ.
اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالمُؤْمِنَاتِ، وَالمُسْلِمِينَ وَالمُسْلِمَاتِ، الأَحْيَاءِ مِنهُم وَالأَمْوَاتِ. اللَّهُمَّ ادْفَعْ عَنَّا البَلَاءَ وَالوَبَاءَ وَالزَّلَازِلَ وَالمِحَنَ، مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، عَن بَلَدِنَا خَاصَّةً، وَسَائِرِ البُلْدَانِ عَامَّةً، يَارَبَّ العَالَمِينَ. رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنيَا حَسَنَةً، وَفِي الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً، وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ.
عِبَادَ اللهِ، إِنَّ اللهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالعَدْلِ وَالإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي القُرْبَى، وَيَنْهَى عَنِ الفَحْشَاءِ وَالمُنكَرِ وَالبَغْيِ، يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ، فَاذكُرُوا اللهَ العَظِيمَ يَذْكُركُمْ، وَاشْكُرُوهُ عَلَى نِعَمِهِ يَزِدكُمْ، وَاسْأَلُوهُ مِن فَضلِهِ يُعطِكُم، وَلَذِكرُ اللهِ أَكبَرُ، وَاللهُ يَعلَمُ مَا تَصنَعُونَ.